Thanks for the question. It sounds like you are pretty clean already, but here are some tips…

If using moist wipes, be sure to also gently dry the area afterward. Use gentle soap and water in the shower. We want to make sure that in your efforts to be clean, you aren't too harsh and cause other problems. You may want to consider removing or even just trimming hair from around your anus and genitals. This can make it easier to clean the area and that hair can also trap lingering odors. Your diet can also be a factor- make sure you drink plenty of water and get enough fiber.

If you want to feel cleaner for anal play, you can try using a gentle (just warm water) enema a few hours before playtime. Tristan Taormino has a good enema how-to here: http://www.puckerup.com/anal_a...

Taking a steamy and sudsy shower together can be a sensual activity for you both. Allowing her to shave the hair around your ass and genitals involves trust which can be really hot. She can also administer an enema for you.

Finally, remember that some smell is natural and healthy. It sounds like you are already pretty conscientious about your hygiene, so there might be another issue. If the odor you are experiencing is persistent and strong you should see a doctor. If your SO is just extra sensitive to your healthy natural smell, that's something she'll have to work through.

Best,
Julia from the E2B team

My so says that one of the reasons why she doesn't give me head is that my ass smells.

I use flushable moist wipes after a bm and I use the hand-held shower head to irrigate/ clean that area.

I think the cleanliness factor, or lack thereof, is also a reason why she won't participate in anal play or sex.

How do I keep myself cleaner and smelling better down there?

Also, do you have any suggestions for making anal cleaning a sensual, pleasureful ritual for me to do/ with her and vice versa?

Thank you!

Den (casiobriggs@yahoo.com)

Thanks!