Some of you may have read the recent research “indicating” (oh yes! Scare quotes!) that the G-spot does not exist. One of my favorite bloggers, Dr. Petra, does a nice thorough analysis of the limitations of this sex study (such as, for example, its reliance on self-reporting and its intentional exclusion of queer women) and what we should and shouldn’t take away from it and others like it. Wisely, she says:
It’s pretty simple. Women are diverse. Some of us really enjoy vaginal stimulation by finger, penis, sex toy (or other item). Some women prefer clitoral, anal, breast or other stimulation.
…The trouble is the g spot is deeply embedded in popular culture and the sex product industry and it’s unlikely to just disappear because one study says they don’t think it exists. Perhaps a better way forward is to think critically about the g spot. Be aware there’s plenty of folk who make money out of your worries of whether you do or don’t have one. Go exploring, but don’t feel under pressure.
Research that tells us we should focus exclusively on one spot or ignore it completely does little to reassure us or enhance our sex lives.
Go ahead. Read the whole article. It’s fascinating and well-worth the time. I also recommend occasionally checking in with Dr. Petra as she does this sort of reasoned analysis all the time and is a good reality check for the media hype around sex studies.
