Oh hello, lovely Early2bed ladies. I am hoping you can help me out. I can squirt. I am certain of it. If I am real relaxed, I can make myself squirt by way of my showerhead and it feels absolutely fantastic. The only problem is, I have never been able to replicate this outside of the shower. I mentioned the squirting thing to my boyfriend a couple months ago, and since then he’s been real interested in seeing it, but obviously there is nothing to show. (He even looked up tutorials, which include a full on massage beforehand and that was frigging nice.) We can only have sex at his house because he currently lives with his parents. The fact that I’ve never been able to show him this squirting ability is stressing me out. (Also: I’m a little worried I’m going to pee on him. And I know, it’s not pee. And my boyfriend, he is so sweet. He says, “So what if you do pee on me. It’s sterile.”) But I was wondering if you had any tips for me or suggestions as to products I could purchase that might closely resemble my showerhead or just trigger some serioius g-spot action.
First some basics: Squirting, gushing, or female ejaculation takes place when the contents of glands in the spongy tissue around the urethra are expelled. The ejaculate fluid is not urine and in tests has been found to be similar to the contents of the male prostate. Due to the location of the glands involved, ejaculation usually happens with a lot of g-spot stimulation. Its also important to be very turned on and relaxed (as you commented). As with many other aspects of sex, some women do it naturally, others learn, and many others never experience it- and all of these things are great! Contrary to common belief, squirting and orgasms are not necessarily related. Women can squirt without cumming and vice-versa.In regards to your question, take a look at when and why you do ejaculate. You are relaxed and it feels amazing. Now, when you are with your boyfriend try to focus on sensations instead of worrying about whether or not you can squirt for him, this should help keep you relaxed and turned on. You shouldn’t feel any pressure to perform- you squirt because it feels good and your man wants to share in the fun because he thinks its hot to see you feeling so damn good. How about starting in your comfort zone and bring him into the shower with you? He won’t be able to see the actual ejaculate, but you will get used to him being with you and I bet he’ll still love watching you enjoy yourself.
When you try it outside of the shower don’t even have the goal of squirting in mind. Pee first so you don’t have to worry about that, and put some towels down. Just get yourselves turned on. Have a few orgasms. The more time you spend getting revved up, the more ejaculate can build up in your paraurethral tissue. When you’re ready, try using firm dildos with a g-spot curve like Ella and the Pure Wand, if you like internal vibration try vibrators like Tula and Gigi. This should be fun! If it keeps getting your panties in a twist, you might just be a lone-squirter, and there’s no shame in that.
For more information g-spot and female ejaculation check out The Smart Girl’s Guide to the G-Spot.
