No? Still not convinced?
Here’s a pop quiz: What is the biggest sex organ?
Answer: The one between your ears!
Yes, it sounds cheesy, but think of how much setting, thoughts, fantasies, external stimulation, etc. can enhance sexual experiences! Straight-up physical stimulation in a vacuum would still feel good, yes, but we rely on our minds to really step up the arousal. We like how our partners look when we’re fucking. We like how our own bodies look. Facial expressions are important; noises are important. None of this is directly affecting your physical sensations, but it can be what makes or breaks a sexual experience. Our biggest sex organ is our brain. And so the visual feast of watching your cock being enthusiastically sucked by a willing partner can be intensely arousing. Conversely, watching your lover’s face as you suck and lick their cock, feeling the mass of it in your mouth, can also be a creative, amazing, eye-opening experience.
But first you need to set the stage. Picking out a dildo can be intimidating and overwhelming. If you’re planning on sucking it, it may be a good idea to pick a more realistic-looking cock–one with a well-defined head and shaft, balls if possible. Vixskin silicone dils - like Tex or Lonestar - look and feel realistic and are very durable. And go for silicone 'cause anything else isn't going to be too tasty. As far as harnesses go, choose one that makes you feel sexy - whether it’s something sleek and sporty like the RodeoH Brief, sexy and feminine like the Boundless Thong harness, or simple like the Ember. Whatever you choose, treat the cock as though it’s part of your body, if you’re wearing it, or like it’s part of your lover’s body if you’re sucking it. The delicious power dynamics that play into dildo blowjobs are intensified the more you use your imagination in this capacity.
Thirdly, make a show out of it. Remember that giving head to a dildo is all about the visuals–so move hair out of the way, make lots of sexy eye contact, slurps and moans are nice, and, of course, enthusiasm is key.
All cheerleading aside, you may feel a little silly at first. Maybe you’ll have a difficult time really making that leap to believing the cock belongs to your partner, or you might be thinking that your lover looks awfully silly sucking on silicone. Don’t worry! This is totally normal–it’s a new experience, it takes a while getting used to, and since many of us are brought up to feel bad or silly about our sexual feelings, it shouldn’t surprise you that something so outside the accepted penis/vagina intercourse paradigm should make you feel funny. But you’ve obviously gotten this far, so why not try to push past that?
Once you’ve really gotten going, when they are really slurping on your cock or they are pulling like crazy on your hair while you suck, maybe it’s time to add a few more tools to the mix! If the strap-on wearing partner is amenable, play with their clit or slide a finger in thier pussy/front hole while you suck thier cock. That might just push them over the edge! Another thing you can do is incorporate a small vibrator that fits on your finger and use that to stimulate yourself or them while you suck. The Nexus and Nexus Jr. are great dildos for cock-sucking because they are double dildos shaped just right for the wearer to insert and the other party to suck! They also rest just-so on the clitoris for great stimulation potential.
There's also an option unlike any other: the BJ dildo. You heard right--a dildo made especially for sucking. It is hollow from the tip to the base, so if it's pressed against the wearer's body, they can receive a strong blowjob-like suction from their partner. It even comes in flesh tones so it's perfect for providing gender euphoria.
Strap-on cock-sucking can be a great hors d’oeuvres to all kinds of sex play, or it can be a lesson in dominance and submission, or just a fun romp all on its own! Something about blowjobs begs naughtiness, so set up a raunchy and exciting scene and hop to it!